Success is not achieved by waiting luck to come or waiting for the right time, but with actions, by applying the correct way of thinking, by taking the required steps - whether we do it consciously and purposefully or just because something around us that has led us to do it.
Before us, lived many people, and if we are sufficiently open to change, we can look back and recognize patterns that could help to us in life - personally and professionally, instead of doing something without clear thought and goal head.
The book "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey is a source that can provide us with just such models. The first three habits are directed to the self or in other words what we have to change ourselves.
- The first habit is to be proactive. It is no good to complain about politicians or about low wages, inflation and financial crisis. The time in which we complain, we can use to ask questions and get moving in the direction - how to raise our value and thus begin to get more so that neither government nor the crisis will have influence on us, or on the material stuff we poses, or on what kind of people we are. More time for complaint, less time for efforts to improve our welfare.
- The second habit is to act consciously to a clear purpose and direction. The book makes us imagine that we are standing over our dead body. What can we say about ourselves - if we were better husbands, if we have improved something in the environment in which we live or we were wasting time in stupid activities such as watching television and criticizing politicians.
- The third habit is to be such and do things that we think about ourselves. If we think we want to be healthy - we have to realize what we must do to be such - namely sports, healthy eating. If you want to be loving spouses and parents - to act in this direction, and not to work hard and do aimless activities and ignore the people around us.
The next group of habits is about how you interact with others.
- There are three ways in which we can approach in relationships - a win-win, win-loss and loss-loss.
- Loss-loss nobody wins. This number includes mutual backbiting, gossiping and wrongdoing. So, both sides lose.
- In the relationship of victory-loss one of the sides wins. While the losing side has the strength and energy, the relationship will exist, but in long term it is predicted to fail.
- Beneficial for both parties as well as business, professional and personal relationships is the interaction win-win.
If you are a writer and you approach negatively - with negative comments and backbiting another writer - you do not win and most likely the other will lose a small percentage of readers, but if you recommend the books of the another author to your audience, the other can return the favor and recommend your books to his audience. So you both won.
- The next habit is to first try to understand the other, before we try to explain ourselves. To truly influence people around us we should go under their skin to understand how they feel, what problems they have, prior to point out and explain.
This approach I personally try to apply when dealing with the users of my apps in the Google store. I try to be positive and open to them without pinpointing the effort, the time and the energy I had to invest. This has earned me positive rating and constructive criticism, through which I developed further my applications.
- Habit number six is to work together with others when we have a common goal. The more necessary it is to create a relationship of cooperation and teamwork when we ourselves do not have the necessary strength and resources to reach our goal.
- The last habit, but not least is "sharpen" your saw. This habit can reduce partially the current efficiency, but has a long-term positive effect. Refers to health, to resources, to knowledge, to the way of life.
If we neglect our health this may lead to temporary discomfort and money cost and in the long term this may cost us our life. If we optimize our resources we can save money or increase our performance and efficiency. If we invest in knowledge, we can improve our performance and efficiency, expand our skills, and save us time by finding other ways to achieve our goals.
Work smart, not much.
I'd like to share very interesting animated summary of the book: